We are prevented from achieving success, being happy in relationships, and living with joy not only by circumstances, but also by internal prohibitions.
Where do they come from, and what to do with them?
Your personality has basic emotional needs: intimacy, acceptance, care, autonomy, freedom. They are as important as food, water or sleep. If as a child you faced pain, ignorance, ridicule, your psyche created prohibitions on these vital needs. As if she told you: “This is impossible, otherwise it will hurt!” This emotional hunger can gradually lead to loneliness, burnout, and depression.
Our questionnaire will help you find out which sources of vital energy are forbidden to you.
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Prohibition of carelessness
Ban on wishes
Prohibition on courage
Ban on self-love
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Prohibition of carelessness
Hypervigilance comes to the fore, which is often expressed in increased anxiety and high demands on oneself. Of course, these qualities can be useful, but sometimes it can be difficult to be in constant “combat readiness” mode. Individuals prone to perfectionism are predisposed to emotional burnout, psychosomatic disorders, and exhaustion. Such personality traits are sharpened as a result of childhood experiences based on the high demands of the parental family, the presence in the family of attitudes that prohibit the manifestation of children’s impulsiveness. Demandingness and responsibility are very valuable qualities, but the right to joy, childlikeness, spontaneity, carelessness is the life-giving source of strength that nourishes our adult part.
Direction of your path: Allow yourself spontaneity and play, all sorts of “useless things”, “being lazy”, “fooling around”, letting go and “relaxing your head”, allowing you to express a variety of emotions.
Ban on wishes
You can be extremely wise and understanding, smart and compassionate. Give care, help and support to those near and far. But are these invaluable qualities directed towards oneself? The tendency to suppress one’s desires in favor of the needs of significant others is most often the result of a child’s focus on the needs of the family, the desire to be obedient, to please and not to cause discomfort to significant others. As such a person grows, he develops sensitivity to the needs and moods of other people and shows excessive care and attention, forgetting about his own needs.
Direction of your path: Developing focus on your desires, their expression and implementation.
Prohibition on courage
What is courage? Confidence in yourself and your abilities? In the language of psychotherapy, we call this autonomy, the sovereignty of psychological space. Violated autonomy manifests itself as a feeling of powerlessness, failure, inability to make the right decisions, awkwardness when expressing one’s position, leads to unrealistic comparisons, self-criticism, and social anxiety. Most often, violations of autonomy are the result of overprotection suffered by anxious parents who are afraid to carry out age-appropriate separation of the child. As a result, a personality is formed that is in dire need of approval from the outside, the help of a “wise mentor.” Yes, mentoring is an absolute need. But how great it is to feel confident inside.
Direction of your path: Developing an “inner mentor” who supports, plans, values you, and gives you strength and self-confidence.
Ban on self-love
This prohibition is characterized by non-acceptance of oneself, a feeling of some internal defect, or one’s imperfection. It can be expressed in shyness, a feeling of awkwardness, difficulties in relationships, a feeling of insecurity, and a feeling of constant internal discomfort. People experiencing it are prone to self-criticism and fear of intimacy. The feeling of lack of self-acceptance and fear of emotional intimacy is most often associated with attachment trauma in childhood. The feeling of abandonment, shame and pain of the experienced situation is deposited in the memory and moves into the present along with growing up. Deep attitudes whisper about the danger of rapprochement; a feeling of shame does not allow one to open up and trust. Loving yourself if you have experienced and not lived through the trauma of shame, giving the opportunity to open up to love and weaken your defenses is not easy.
Direction of your path: Self-care. The more we hear our needs, recognize them, take care of ourselves, the closer we get to know ourselves and through care we learn self-love.
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